Gay bottom with hemorrhoids
We Asked a Gay Proctologist to Answer All Your Scariest Questions
Beware: The following article, in which a proctologist answers questions about anal issues, contains a lot of real talk.
Ever wondered why rimming is such an enjoyable act and is so widespread among gay men? It’s because anal tissue is so sensitive. In evidence, it’s made from the same skin tissue as our lips; and fancy our lips, it’s also rich in nerve endings. The downside? That adj skin tissue is thin and susceptible to injury and blemishes. But while it’s easy to tell if you have a busted lip or cool sore, it’s not so easy to spot anal issues like warts, hemorrhoids and skin tags. Some men may even have them and have no idea without making a trip to their general physician or proctologist.
So we spoke with Dr. Evan Goldstein, CEO and founder of Bespoke Surgical, a private gay proctological and anal surgery practice in Unused York City and Los Angeles, about the three most common anal issues in gay men and how to detect and deal with them.
According to Dr. Goldstein, the three anal issues are very different.
First, the
Dear Dr. Ren,
I am a gay male in my mids with an embarrassing problem. I hold hemorrhoids. This is uncomfortable enough on its own, but when I join a new dude, well, you can imagine. What can I do?
Blushing and Bleeding
Dear Blushing and Bleeding,
Yours is a more common difficulty than you think.
About half of the population has hemorrhoids by age 50, though usually these come and proceed , oftentimes without our even noticing.
It is important that you get a proper diagnosis of what exactly is going on with your bum, as hemorrhoids are only one of several disquieting conditions. Remember, bleeding may also be a symptom of fissures (little tears) or other digestive diseases, including colorectal cancer. See your doctor for a proper diagnosis.
S/he will examine your anus and rectum to look for swollen blood vessels that indicate hemorrhoids and will also act a digital rectal exam. You may require an exam with an anoscope, a hollow, lighted tube used for viewing internal hemorrhoids, or a proctoscope, useful for more completely examining the entire rectum. It is not as horrible as
Understanding Anal Health
Anal sex is a very common practice among gay, bisexual, and queer men. Knowing the risks and how to appreciate safer anal sex is vital to a healthy sex life.
The fact is, a lot goes on down there. Many conditions can impact your anal health aside from HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. Clinics like Red Door in Minneapolis and Clinic in St. Paul are kind and gay-friendly. Waiting to see if symptoms disappear may only prolong an unpleasant condition or give you a false sense of confidence that you don’t have a sexually transmitted infection (STI) when, in fact, you do.
Good prevention doesn’t just mean avoiding health problems — it also means dealing with those problems quickly. If your rear end is troubling you, swallow that shyness and make an appointment to see a doctor. Your anus will thank you.
Aside from HIV and STIs, what can disturb an otherwise happy and robust butt? Here is a quick roll call of health conditions that can occur.
Anal Itch
Known formerly as anal pruritus, it means the skin around your anus itches. The degree can range fr
Anal sex after haemorrhoidectomy?
nh_user_
I am a gay man in my late 30s. I have always enjoyed receptive anal sex. For several years, I have suffered from piles. I've had them treated various times but they always came back. The surgeon advised me to have a haemorrhoidectomy, which I did. This was six months ago. The first few months were tough going but then everything started to resolve down, and I felt more or less back to normal. Except for sex. I can take something up to a certain, fairly small, girth. Then the pain kicks in. I'm trying to loosen myself up with toys, but it doesn't seem to be working. I'm really worried I may never possess a fulfilling sex life again. Grateful for any advice.
nh_user_
Hey Matt, I've suffered exact adj thing and all I can tell is you really need to donate it some period. What worked for me was a standard butt plug and plenty of lube. I can't be any more graphic. Your haemorrhidectomy has kinda reset your body, and you have to go through the discovery again of working up to bigger sizes. Just relax, listen to yo
Dear Dr. Ren,
I am a gay male in my mids with an embarrassing problem. I hold hemorrhoids. This is uncomfortable enough on its own, but when I join a new dude, well, you can imagine. What can I do?
Blushing and Bleeding
Dear Blushing and Bleeding,
Yours is a more common difficulty than you think.
About half of the population has hemorrhoids by age 50, though usually these come and proceed , oftentimes without our even noticing.
It is important that you get a proper diagnosis of what exactly is going on with your bum, as hemorrhoids are only one of several disquieting conditions. Remember, bleeding may also be a symptom of fissures (little tears) or other digestive diseases, including colorectal cancer. See your doctor for a proper diagnosis.
S/he will examine your anus and rectum to look for swollen blood vessels that indicate hemorrhoids and will also act a digital rectal exam. You may require an exam with an anoscope, a hollow, lighted tube used for viewing internal hemorrhoids, or a proctoscope, useful for more completely examining the entire rectum. It is not as horrible as
Understanding Anal Health
Anal sex is a very common practice among gay, bisexual, and queer men. Knowing the risks and how to appreciate safer anal sex is vital to a healthy sex life.
The fact is, a lot goes on down there. Many conditions can impact your anal health aside from HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. Clinics like Red Door in Minneapolis and Clinic in St. Paul are kind and gay-friendly. Waiting to see if symptoms disappear may only prolong an unpleasant condition or give you a false sense of confidence that you don’t have a sexually transmitted infection (STI) when, in fact, you do.
Good prevention doesn’t just mean avoiding health problems — it also means dealing with those problems quickly. If your rear end is troubling you, swallow that shyness and make an appointment to see a doctor. Your anus will thank you.
Aside from HIV and STIs, what can disturb an otherwise happy and robust butt? Here is a quick roll call of health conditions that can occur.
Anal Itch
Known formerly as anal pruritus, it means the skin around your anus itches. The degree can range fr
Anal sex after haemorrhoidectomy?
nh_user_
I am a gay man in my late 30s. I have always enjoyed receptive anal sex. For several years, I have suffered from piles. I've had them treated various times but they always came back. The surgeon advised me to have a haemorrhoidectomy, which I did. This was six months ago. The first few months were tough going but then everything started to resolve down, and I felt more or less back to normal. Except for sex. I can take something up to a certain, fairly small, girth. Then the pain kicks in. I'm trying to loosen myself up with toys, but it doesn't seem to be working. I'm really worried I may never possess a fulfilling sex life again. Grateful for any advice.
nh_user_
Hey Matt, I've suffered exact adj thing and all I can tell is you really need to donate it some period. What worked for me was a standard butt plug and plenty of lube. I can't be any more graphic. Your haemorrhidectomy has kinda reset your body, and you have to go through the discovery again of working up to bigger sizes. Just relax, listen to yo